The Art of War - My enemy, My best friend

I was once told from a very young age that the human mind has super powers and that we can possibly bend a spoon with our mind if we learn to use it properly. Wouldn’t it be great to know that it’s true? I wish to have that ability. I would ask myself - “How would I describe my relationship with my mind?” Does my mind control me or the other way around?

I believe we all struggle in one way or another, or at least I have. I realized that I often struggle with the confrontation I invite upon myself. I often ask myself questions that pops up out of nowhere. Should I have done that or should I not? What if it’s wrong and what if it’s right? Why? Questions of uncertainties and full of animosity that makes you feel agitated and sometimes lost.  Our mind is always clouded with all sorts of feelings. Sometimes we tell ourselves that I will be happy if I’m successful, if I make more money, if I have more power and skills, if I achieve a position or a status. And then what? If our mind is always filled up with what ifs, regrets from the past and always thinking about the future, then what else would it have room for the present?

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve encountered numerous times head on with my mind to strive a win-win. After countless hours of bickering I’ve have come to realize that the feelings that I had when I encounter pain, loss, separation, sickness and all other emotions that goes back and forth behind my unconscious mind is suffering. Buddha once told us that suffering is a choice. How is it a choice when it seems so inevitable? I don’t know how, but I’m unlearning every time I struggle. I have come to understand, here-and-now that my mind is everything; my enemy and my best friend. 

Perhaps many of us who struggle are not aware of the self-sabotage that stands in our way and that our unconscious mind is playing tricks on us. When we are faced with obstacles and circumstances which calls for our actions, more often we react instead of response collectively with conscious awareness. One of the common reason we react is because it hurts as if it has cut right through and threatened our belief system – the ‘ego-self’. Our ego-self has a natural ability to sense fear, and fear is a natural response towards potential danger; fear of losing, fear of survival, fear of separation, fear of rejection and even fear of success. We tend to over analyse everything we perceive with pre-consumed ideas or judgements – our belief system taught us.

Picture yourself as a computer and your mind is the hard drive which controls your every action and reaction. To get started, you will need to install software programs into the hard drive, so that the computer which is your body can run accordingly to the programs you installed. The software programs are your belief systems – good and bad that you were taught, experienced, and exposed to as you journey through life. They are stored in your drives and never going away. So, whenever you are faced with situations and circumstances, your ego directed self makes inflexible reactions according to what it is stored. It is said that our mind is capable of producing millions of simultaneous computations and that it can operate enormously on an unconscious level. This is especially true, when my ego-self sometimes tend to over-exaggerate what I see, hear or do. With regards to this ego-backed belief system, it’s the enemy to be subdued.

It’s not surprising to know that most of us go through life without knowing who we are, but we feel very assured we are the physical self – ‘ego-self’ with a name, a title or a role to play in this constantly changing society.

Why am I pouring my thoughts out like this? Am I in the state of debating with my mind again? No, I just want to